I took the challenge to stop yelling at my kids 8 weeks ago.
I can’t believe that in that 8 weeks that I haven’t written about triggers. Finding out what triggers our anger and causes us to yell is huge! It’s like step two in the process of trying to stop yelling. The first is making the commitment to stop.
Often times we yell or get mad at our kids for reasons that have nothing to do with them. We are stressed, disorganized, distracted, or tired, so we don’t have the patience we need with our kids. We end up taking out our frustrations on them.
I recently asked the members of our Stop Yelling Group to tell me when they feel like they are most likely to yell. Here are many of their answers.
Lack of Self-Care
- We are hungry or tired…or both!
- Feeling overwhelmed by life
- Haven’t had any “me time”
- Haven’t showered.
- Feeling alone
- In a rush or running late
- Feeling overwhelmed
- Fights with others
- Unprepared for the day
- Too many noises all at once
- A messy house, stuff everywhere
- Feeling hot
- Talking on the phone
- Being on the computer
- Trying to read
- Talking with others…including your spouse
- Thinking through problems
When Things Go Wrong
- Unexpected problems pop up
- Plans fall through
- Unmet expectations from others
This is only a handful of times and situations when we as Mom’s can lose our cool. As you can see, a lot of times we yell, not because of our kids behaviors, but because of all the other stuff going on in our life.
It’s ok though. Once we are able to pinpoint the times and situations that we are likely to get our anger triggered, we can work around them. Being aware of them is sometimes all it takes to center ourselves and handle the problem without yelling.
So take a look a the list. Are any of these triggers for you? Do you have triggers that aren’t listed here?
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